Monday, January 1, 2018


I pray for a wonderful 2018 for all of us.
♥♥ ♥♥

“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.

Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. 

You're doing things you've never done before,

 and more importantly, you're Doing Something.

So that's my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. 

Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. 

Make mistakes nobody's ever made before. 

Don't freeze, don't stop, don't worry that it isn't good enough, or it isn't perfect, 

whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
whatever it is you're scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” 

Neil Gaiman
I have to be honest and say that I have never been so scared of things
like I've been since Mr. Sweet passed.
scares me....
I dreaded putting up my tree because I was afraid I couldn't do it..
he always put it up and I decorated it.
I found out I COULD put it up and it was nice and straight...
just like it was when he did the job.
Then, I was scared I'd never get all the decorations
put away in tubs and boxes like he did.
I did ! 
 I was scared of being totally responsible for taking care of our car..
he did ALL that...
but I found out I could get the insurance paid on time...
I DID get my yearly inspection...
I did get it all sent in to the court house...
 and I DID get the sticker on straight on my windshield.
So many things I face every single day that I am scared of without him.

Sometimes, when I am in the middle of doing things,
a great fear floods all over me that I'm not sure I can face
life without him by my side.
I KNOW I can...
but that fear is always there.

I have to TRY to do these things that scare me even if I'm afraid of mistakes
or else I would be totally IN TROUBLE.
All my family is so quick to help me in any way I need...
but, it makes me feel good to know that I can do A LOT of things,
for myself.....little things...

And...I'm not sure just what Heaven is like but
I have a feeling when Bill sees me "fend" for myself on little things,
and he knows how our family takes care of me,
he smiles.
In fact, even when my doing things aren't as good as he would have done,
I think he still smiles.
That's what I think Heaven is all about...


  1. An excellent word! So glad that you are rising to the challenges. I am a little slow in that department. Happy New Year, BJ!

  2. I think we are all a bit stronger than we think we are....I am so happy to hear that you are finding that strength within you. I am sure Mr Sweet is watching over you and guiding you daily!! Happy New Year to you and your family!

  3. bj I am saving this post. One of my fears is being the one of 'us' left behind. If that turns out to be so, your words will bring encouragement.
    Praying for a blessed new year for you and your family.

  4. Mr. Sweet DOES smile and is SO proud of you for doing those things that scared you! Keep on keepin' on dear B.J. Praying for a wonderful New Year for you! HUGS!

  5. What an encouraging post, BJ. makes me think of the verse, “ I can do all things through Christmwho strengthens me!”

  6. I think you are right, bj, and that heaven is full of smiles and no sorrow.
    It is amazing how brave and strong we women are when we have to be---usually because we have no other choice. I pray for you and pray that you will sail through 2018 with aplomb and grace.

    You are a wonderful woman, bj, and I know that God will guide your walk in this upcoming year. Love and blessings-xo Diana

  7. Bj I have had the very same feelings. Happy New Year dear friend. Have a blessed day. Madeline

  8. Your wonderful post in celebration of the New Year has really touched my heart deeply this morning dear bj. I often think of many of those same things I may someday face too, but then of course my hubby does the same. We even talked about it last night at midnight after toasting 2018 - it's difficult but necessary.
    I will print and keep your post and look at it often.
    Thank you, know you are in my prayers. I know Bill is so proud of you and should be of yourself.
    With best wishes always -
    Mary x

  9. Rosie the Riveter was right when she said "We Can Do It!" Wishing you a 2018 of continued healing and blessings, bj.

  10. I love that thought about smiles. May God continue to give you the strength to do what you have to do and get help with other things, too. Happy New Year dear bj!

  11. BJ,
    You are always an encouragement to us! Wishing you a very Happy New Year with every blessing in 2018!
    Miz Helen

  12. Mr. Sweet would be so proud of you! I can understand all of what you say, who wouldn't be frightened of the future without the one we love. Great post bj. Happy New Year my friend........

  13. I believe a little bit of fear is always there, sometimes more obvious than others. It's what we do with it, how we face it, that matters -- and you have been doing yeoman's work, tackling things that are new with courage and determination -- and success. My wish for you is that success continues and that each time the fear becomes a wee bit less.

    Last night I was at a NYEve party hosted by a friend whose husband died over Thanksgiving. Someone said, "John would love this." And Cheri said, "Oh, John is here." And he was. We couldn't see him but we could feel him. You know Mr. Sweet is there, too. And so do I. Big hugs and good wishes for the new year.

  14. Wonderful post, BJ. I thank the Lord for the victories He has given you. I learn through you. Thank you for sharing.

  15. Bravo BJ...You my darling, are an inspiration to me...always! I cannot even imagine this....I wish you a happy New Year full of new possibilities! You are a gift to so many! Warm hugs and keep putting one foot in front of the are doing just fine!

  16. BJ, best wishes and blessing for a great 2018.

  17. So wonderful to read your post bj. This is beautiful and right from your heart. I bet all the things in just daily life can be so scary without Bill there to help or do that for you. You are braver than you ever thought you could be and are proving that to yourself with each hurdle of something scary to do yourself. I am so glad you are able to move through the scary things. May this new week of the new year bring you the strength you need to head forward in life. It is amazing how strong you can be when you need to.

  18. You are awesome BJ! You are right, you have to try. Even if you make a mistake. And you have a wonderful support group standing behind you if you need to lean a little. Happy new year!

  19. I know he smiles and it SO proud of you! Happy New Year, my friend.

  20. I love the gut honesty of this post. When I "hear" you "talk" about all these new things, I realize that if my husband of 31 years passes first, I'll be going through many of the same things. We've been together since we were teenagers. There are so many things I've never done, because he's always done them for me. Your experience has made me contemplate our life. I wish you a happy new year. I know this one has been so hard for you. I think the poem you shared at the top is wonderful. You'll be doing many new things this year. God is always with you dear. He will never leave or forsake you. May you feel Holy Spirit's presence and hear his voice clearer than ever. God bless you! Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage

  21. oh my,, you made me cry, lol, happy sad tears,, you are an inspiration, so honest and so straight from the heart to the heart,, I'm sending you a big hug!!

  22. Exceptional post bj . . .
    Makes me smile like a silly girl . . .
    No mistake . . . I looked at myself, I was smiling . . .
    Trying, Doing, Being . . .
    Sounds like Hope, Living, Love . . .
    No doubt about it . . .
    Mr Sweet is smiling . . .
    Carrying on with a broken heart is unimaginable . . .
    You Are Though . . . one moment at a time . . .
    (Saved your Wishing You Mistakes piece!)
    Happy NEW YEAR bj . . .

  23. Bill is grinning from ear to ear. Making mistakes is part of learning and I am pretty sure he knows that.

    Love you girl. Happy New Year.

    God bless.

  24. Mr Sweet would be so proud of you. I bet hes smiling and even giggling at you. If I ever lose my other half, Id be lost as he does EVERYthing for me too. You give me hope that we can get over fears and obstacles if we just put one foot in front of the other.

  25. I believe we women are a lot stronger than we think! I also believe that your dear husband is by your side, in your corner, cheering you on as you complete all these tasks. Wishing you a very happy new year, BJ.

  26. I admire your courage! Being scared and doing it anyway. I'm sure your dear husband is so proud of you. Happy New Year! xo Deborah

  27. I know this year has been so hard for you and my heart goes out to you. It's good that you are learning you CAN do things for yourself. You are stronger than you think you are and Mr. Sweet would be proud. Happy New Year.

  28. You are a very strong and brave lady. Maybe you don't see that yet, but it is happening. You are facing the new challenges and you're doing fine. Mr. Sweet is so proud, I just know he is!

  29. I'm so proud of you as I know he is too. It's hard to be responsible for everything but you're doing great! Happy New year sweet friend. Hugs, Diane

  30. You and God have got this, BJ. I always just try to “do the next thing”. Sending love and ongoing prayers.

  31. My dear friend, this was wonderful to read and you give me courage. You are an amazing woman and I just cannot say that enough.

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  33. Dearest BJ ~ Your post is a light of encouragement for widows. It blessed my heart. I've been a widow now for 5 years and it is always a thrill to be able to do something to take care of my life now that I no longer have my dear husband to do the things that he did. I think our husbands do smile and also that they cheer us on.

    I am proud of you and pray that you will feel God's love, peace and strength surrounding and flowing through you always. FlowerLady

  34. BJ, you made me cry. I'm so sorry for your loss and so happy to see just how far your 2018 word is taking you. You are an inspiration!


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xo bj